Do you look at someone’s else’s life and suddenly feeling like yours isn’t enough? It’s that silent sickness we catch. There will always be someone richer, prettier, more successful, more “together” than you. And yet—every time we look sideways instead of inwards, we drain a little more joy out of our own lives. 😒 When you scroll and see someone “doing better,” your brain releases dopamine and cortisol the same mix that makes you crave more but feel worse at the same time. I

When RustOut is just as stressful as BurnOut. Which one are you? Both are routes to Stress and deteriorating Wellbeing. When your manager does not take the time or care to support your progression and development, you become rusty and deteriorate. When you are given work, which is uninspiring, does not stretch you, or make use of your skills and strengths. You are given projects that are less meaningful, under-utilising your skills but too time-consuming so that you can’t tak

We’ve all been in those brainstorming sessions: A whiteboard. A deadline. A group of supposedly smart people in a room. But I never liked brainstorming. I’ve felt under pressure to perform, say something, anything rather than sit there like some dumb ass with no ideas. I’ve sometimes felt "Why are we getting nowhere with this?" and “Why can’t I seem to come up with anything worthwhile” And when we do have some ideas, they feel flat, safe and similar to before. People agree wi

Remember that famous Will Smith’s moment at the Oscars? In that split second, Will Smith’s brain flooded with adrenaline and emotion. And we have all been there… yes you have. 🧨 Road rage or shopping rage 🧨 Crushed a teammates confidence with a snide comment 🧨 Shouted at your kids and felt really shitty afterwards  That was a powerful example of what behavioural science calls the Amygdala Hijack — when our emotional brain takes over and hijacks the part of our brain linked

Does your manager believe in you, and do you feel that? Early in my career, I had a manager who believed in me way more than I believed in myself. I’d barely started in the role, still figuring things out, when they gave me a project that felt out of my league. I remember thinking “What if I fail?” being fresh in the role. I remember saying, “Are you sure I’m the right person for this?” Their words said it all. “Yes, because I see where you’re going, not just where you are.”

History’s most dangerous sentence — and still alive in boardrooms today. Back in 1971, psychologist Stanley Milgram ran a shocking experiment. People thought they were helping with a study on learning and memory. Their job? To give electric shocks to a “learner” (an actor) every time they got an answer wrong. With each mistake, the shocks increased — all the way up to a dangerous 450 volts. The “learner” screamed. Begged to stop. Fell silent. But the man in the white lab coat

“I can’t do this.”It’s been a phrase I’ve been saying a lot recently! But I’ve started to add one small word “YET” and everything changes. When I say, “I can’t do this… yet.” 🧠 You’re activating your brain’s potential. You’re choosing possibility over permanence. 🚪 You’re not making an excuse — you’re opening a door. 👟 You’re telling your brain: keep going, keep growing. Because yet isn’t about where you are — it’s about where you’re heading. 🔥 Your brain is on fire with

I’ve been busy working on my glimmers Which is why I have been spending less time on Social Media platforms like LinkedIn, and my happiness rating has gone up. Taking note of that spark — the micro-moment of calm, joy, or warmth. My glimmers..... The smell of warm bread and fresh coffee. The orange glow stretching across an early sky My children’s cheeky and infectious laughter The softness of my cat’s head under my hand Drinking thick hot chocolate with my daughter on a cold

We post, we get likes — and for a brief moment, those likes make us feel happy. It’s fascinating: we rarely know what someone actually thinks or feels when they tap that little thumbs-up. But our brains still interpret it as validation. A signal that we’re seen. That we matter. That our experiences are worth something. And truthfully, most of us enjoy that feeling. It’s human. But personally, I’ve realized something about myself: I’d rather share the meaningful moments with m

I was one of those kids who was picked last for the Sports teams. I was not in the “in group” of girls. I went to an all girls school and it was tough. "Picked Last" isn't even the right term as you are not picked, you are the only one left to be taken by the team because there is no one else. What a cruel, callous act that the teachers at that time thought was acceptable. I don’t understand why the teacher (never liked the PE teachers much) gave the power to two popular kids